This post was written by Ellen Svardh with additional information from Anjali Chatterjee and Gabriella Rangel.
Magazines, runways, Instagram and other forms of social media can, at times, alter our style to the point where it is no longer our own. Comfort and sense of self are left on the shelf, and your style becomes a replica of what you think your favorite actress, supermodel or public figure would wear. What most people don’t realize is that these photos we see on things such as social media and in magazines are more often than not, simply unrealistic. These photos are Photoshopped and edited to perfection. Why set your goals to be something that doesn’t exist in reality?
Let’s be real, you shouldn’t strive to be anyone but yourself. You’ve heard it said a million times, but it’s important to truly understand and repeat to yourself on a daily basis. Instead of letting the media dictate your style, simply let it inspire you and what is your style. Instead of mimicking what you see because you feel pressured to dress “normal”, use media outlets as different perspectives to create your own, unique, look. After all, your style should be a reflection of you and only you! When you leave a first impression, your style should resemble you well, and you should be confident in what you wear!
3 Ways Style Can Inspire You
Every season brings a new set of “it” colors for that year. It’s wonderful, great and exciting, but if those colors don’t speak to you and you don’t feel comfortable in them, don’t feel obliged to buy those colors! Wear what is most natural to you. So if you have to spend 20 minutes convincing yourself why it might be a good fit for you, the obvious answer may be the right one. On the other hand, it’s great to take fashion risks when you want to, but you should want to rock those colors and not feel like you have to convince yourself. If you always stick with the neutrals, you should never feel like you can’t get that red blazer or snag some white denim!
There’s no shame in diversifying, but it’s important to remember it’s because you want to, not because you feel like you have to. Most importantly, never make yourself feel uncomfortable just because you want to be a part of some passing trend. It’ll be gone and forgotten in a couple months if not even weeks…. But you’ll always remember the regret you felt from spending money on a trendy item instead of a great pair of jeans that you loved!
All of the trendy cuts each season won’t always suit your body shape and that is totally fine. Every woman experiences it at one time or another, and it doesn’t mean you can’t feel good in your style! Always opt for items that compliment your body shape, not the model on the runway or the singer on stage.
This is a mistake I think everyone has made more than once. Countless times if we’re being honest! I mean, the early 2000’s were a mess when it came to these types of trends. I don’t think crop tops and low rise jeans are for everyone, and that’s okay. You have to use perspective in these situations, too. Are the photos you’re looking at even real? With technology, it’s almost impossible to believe everything you see. So if you feel the need to buy that crop top that you know you don’t feel comfortable in, remember it may not even look good on the model that influenced you to buy it.
Just because your style is different, does not make it wrong. Plus, once the trend is out of style you’ll regret spending money on something that didn’t make you feel fabulous.
The statement piece.
Every year there are those standout statement pieces that few people could pull off or feel comfortable wearing. We all go through it, at least a few times a season! If you don’t feel confident in it, don’t force yourself to wear it. Statement pieces are often bold – involving the craziest or most dramatic trends from the season. They’re not created with the majority in mind, and if they belonged in every closet, they wouldn’t be statement pieces. Looking at photos of someone wearing these statement pieces can make you feel jealous sometimes! It’s always difficult to see something on someone else and like the way it looks, but maybe not like the piece itself. It’s okay to not want to wear a bright red studded leather jacket or thigh-high boots.
I can guarantee there’s at least a handful of people who rock statement pieces who don’t even like them, but only wear them because they feel like that’s what they should want to wear. I don’t know about y’all, but I know there are options that make me look as good as I feel, and that’s a win-win in my book. Always, always, always wear what makes you feel amazing. It’s never worth feeling uncomfortable or insecure because your style should be for YOU and YOU only!
These points being made, let the color, cut and statement pieces of each season inspire you. Incorporate the idea of individual pieces into your wardrobe and style. Say red is the color; it is completely fine to go for red lipstick rather than a coat. Baby steps are always an option if you’re not big on bold colors or pieces! The big bomber is the key piece; nothing wrong with picking up a thin silk bomber instead that doesn’t make you look like a marshmallow.
Don’t feel like you have to wear what everyone else wears, and don’t feel bad if you want to take a few staple pieces and trendy colors and combine them to create your own wardrobe. It’s okay if you like to pair your favorite slip dress with some white tennies. The only way you can go wrong with your own style is if it’s not you – and luckily that’s an easy fix! And if you don’t want to follow the trends of the season? Totally fine as well.
Find your own style and make the trends fit your style, not the other way around. Always keep your best self in mind when shopping, and put the media influences on the back burner.
Let the world inspire you rather than transform you. You should remain you.
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